Desgning VB.net Table

Question

Hi,
Im working with some programmers on a project. We are creating a software piece and have some problems with form/table design.  Im trying to take the technical look out of the form and give it a more designed look. I have included a screen shot. What I want to do is:
1. Design the header of the table.
2. Create alternate row colours
3. Use Grapical buttons instead of the Edit Delete Buttons.
I have tried looking for skins etc for tables, but no luck. While Im not experienced in VB.net I have a team that is. Im just looking for someone to point me in the right direction. Thanks for any help.
Kind Regards,
Thomas